Saturday, September 18, 2010
Two women want to know the best way to get noticed online. Do not BS in your Bio or Profile, be honest about everything if you are serious about meeting a potential partner.
While the preferred method of meeting a potential partner is at a function or event, many people today are looking for a date through online resources. This is mainly due to time, busy careers, age & even laziness. You don’t even have to dress or do your hair while talking with them online unless you are chatting through a web cam. It can be very exciting for some men & women who have had minimal dating experiences. All of a sudden they are connecting with new prospects on a daily basis!
Once you have decided to go online & choose your preferred dating site, your profile & photo are the most important tasks to pay specific attention to. Look around at other people’s profiles and make note of the ones that catch your eye. Review both men & women in your age category. When writing your Bio, try to keep it limited to 2-3 short paragraphs. Write out a rough draft of all your strong qualities, your preferences, boundaries (age, smoker, drinker, fitness level etc.) Ask a friend to describe you if you have trouble writing about yourself or have someone assist you that already have an online dating profile.
Photos should be attractive & classy. Showing too much cleavage, abdominals or biceps is making a sexual statement. (Of course if that is what you are looking for, then by all means post your best assets for all to see!) If you are serious about finding a life partner, then it is important to put “out” what you want to receive.
Be aware of your surroundings in the photo. If housekeeping is not your strong point, don’t take the photo next to a cluttered room. One of the biggest turn offs for others viewing your profile, is posting a picture of yourself with an old flame. It does not make you look important it makes you look vain and insecure. Air brushing your imperfections is not a good idea either because you will meet them one day. Remember that everyone has flaws no one is immune to that.
Humor is a wonderful quality and showing that in your written profile will give you a huge advantage when people read it. Being too serious or clinical is not attractive. By being specific with what you are looking for, you may have fewer suitors contacting you, but you will quickly weed out the ones that are not your type. Quality is what you are looking for in the long run. This way you will not waste time with the wrong ones and can concentrate on dating people you have lots in common with.
One thing to keep in mind, some people are content to just chat online without ever meeting anyone. They could just be fulfilling an ego need & that is all they want, or they may be married or in a relationship. This should be viewed as a red flag and seen early on. By deleting these types right away, you will spend less time waiting for them to make a date in person because you see them for what they are. You will become an expert over time & learn to spot these Internet dating leaches.
While venturing into this online journey it is important to have the same morals and values you have always had outside of Internet dating. Be careful not let too many things slide outside your boundaries or comfort zones, make excuses for the wrong ones or overlook things because you may be lonely. Be clear about what you want on your dating profile and in your life. When someone is right for you it does tend to happen naturally. It progresses without all the questions. “When will I see them again? “Are they going to call me again?” “Are they interested in me?” Think back to some of the tiresome relationships that were in your life, if it seems like too much work, it probably is. When a relationship is on the right track the feelings are reciprocated and if not, as Greg Behrendt would say, “Maybe they’re just not into you”.
10 DATING “PROFILE PRIORITIES” SUMMARY:
• Honesty – Only write the truth about who you are
• Make it short & to the point – If it is too lengthy, people with get bored & move on.
• Conservative photos – Save your “sexy qualities” until after they have earned your respect
• Only write about what you like, not what you don’t like.
• Disclose all children & pets living with you (Could you give Octomom a run for her money?)
• Your interests/activities should only include what you actually enjoy doing (if you have a fear of water do not say that white water rafting is your number one adventure sport)
• Be Specific as to what you are looking for – (no long distance, age restrictions, race)
• Do not ever put your phone number or email contact numbers on your profile
Susan McCord @ http://www.vancouverdatingrelationshipadvice.com