Thursday, September 19, 2019

Are Your Insecure Thoughts Ruining Your Relationships?




Are Your Insecure Thoughts Ruining Your Relationships? Do you have some inner demons that speak loudly to you with every relationship you venture in to?

Does self-doubt rule your thoughts on a daily basis and make you feel insecure within your partnerships? Is there something from your past that hasn't been dealt with and is causing you to feel insecure and unlovable?

It's time to take control of this issue and fix it! Trying to do this on your own isn't working so seeking professional advice is important now.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help, in fact, that shows a strength that you are ready to move on to your highest good. You are owning that something isn't working in your relationships and needs to be altered. That's a good thing!
I love to hear from you & will always take time to answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below!

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Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Ultimate Dating Advice After a Divorce



Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with but it doesn't mean your life is over or that you will never find love again.

Divorce can take a huge toll on your self-esteem and keep you guarded and angry for a long time. 
Do you really want your Ex to have that much control over you after your breakup? It's time to re-invent yourself! 
There is a reason things didn't work out in your relationship because there is a new and better path meant for you ahead. It's not going to be all rainbows and unicorns for the first 6 months, but things will improve when you make the effort to be positive when comprehending the reasons things dissolved in your partnership. It takes two people to make or break a relationship so try not to be jaded that it is all the fault of your Ex.

"I'm too scared to date! Who is going to want me?"

There is someone special out there, you just have to open your heart up again. (This is also single parent dating advice, love can happen again for you too! Date someone who also has children so they understand!) 

Don't be afraid to put yourself out there again, it's worth it to try! Do you really think that your Ex is the only person you can love in one lifetime? NOT! Let yourself be a little vulnerable by letting down your walls so you have the chance to end up in a healthier partnership that could be much better suited for you. 

Do not view divorce as a failure!

Sometimes relationships just run their course and a couple falls out of love or becomes bored or complacent and gives up trying to make it work anymore. Whatever the scenario was that ended your marriage, take some time to evaluate those learned lessons.

Get out of your routine and take some time to be around other people who are more compatible with whom you are today. It's not just your Ex that has changed, you are probably not the same person you were when you were first married years ago.

We as humans are all continually evolving, but we don't always grow in the same direction as our spouse. It is up to the couple to stay connected and communicative in their partnership.

Unfortunately, you can't make someone stay in love with you if their heart has moved on. It's tough to understand when it isn't a mutual decision but eventually, you will both be in a much happier place, than faking you're in a loving marriage that has obviously taken a new direction.

Dating has changed a lot in the last 10 years but ultimately we are all looking for someone to share our lives with. Yes, I know, there are people out there that are just in it for the sex, but they are pretty easy to pick out on the dating sites or even on a first date. They just can't help themselves in making sex a conversation priority! That is the first red flag!

If you are looking for a committed partnership do not sleep with someone right away! If they move on quickly then you have your answer as to what they are looking for! 

Get out with friends as often as possible, start a new hobby, take a course or join some meetup groups that offer mingling scenarios. The best thing you can do to get ready to date again after a divorce is to get back your self-esteem and rebuild your confidence! This can happen by diversifying your life on a regular basis.

The more you put yourself out there, the bigger the chance you will have of meeting some new friends and eventually be open to receiving a romantic partner into your life.  Love happens at every age and I know this to be true because I am one of those people who found love again after a long divorce. Always keep your heart open. <3 p="">

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Advice Show 

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

Why Do Guys Pay Attention to My Friends On a Girls Night But Ignore me?



Today I answer Debbie's question on my advice column: Why Do Guys Pay Attention to My Friends On a Girls Night But Ignore me? Every time I go out for a girls night, guys will come over and talk to my friends and barely acknowledge me!

I'm attractive and friendly but they always seem to zero in on one or two of my friends and take over the evening. Isn't this kind of rude? What am I doing wrong?

Has this happened to you? Please leave your comments below & will always take time to answer you back.

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Thursday, May 23, 2019


Today’s Topic Is: Stop Dating Bad Boys – Nice Guys Rock!

Are you continually attracted only to men that are hot and unavailable? Has this become a dating pattern that is full of drama and making you feel sad, lonely and insecure?

Why take the hard road in any relationship? It is time to meet someone who has substance and puts you first. Vancouver's dating reputation is still a problem but it doesn't have to be! 
  • Wouldn’t it be great to meet a guy in this city who actually says what he means?
  • How awesome would it be to meet men who respect you and have no problem communicating how they feel towards you? 
  • How nice would it be to know where you stand with a man you are dating because there are no guessing games?
Of course, we need to have chemistry with our partner, but why are so many people in Vancouver attracted to someone who is "not really into them" long term? We KNOW when a relationship is on the right path but we let “sexual lust” put us in denial mode!

When you are with the right person things flow smoothly for the most part. There are very few games, not a lot of questions and no one is controlling the relationship. There is no push and pull because there is a mutual love and respect for each other.

There is no ego or power struggle. It’s a healthy scenario!

Don’t be mad at yourself if you occasionally get sucked into the bad boy arena, after all, they are so good at what they do!

They have had a lot of practice enticing the ladies with their sexual charm and it’s not always easy to resist. Once women stop falling for this forbidden fruit, their dating life will improve a lot!

This isn’t just a problem with women and there are plenty of men who have been lured into the web of high maintenance bad girls as well. 

The trick is to understand when someone is truly in your life because they really care about you. They are not there to use you as a trophy date, a booty call, or they are just interested in your wallet!

Love doesn’t have to be difficult when you have your self-worth in a respectful place. Nice guys and nice girls make the best life partners. ❤


Let me know what you think. Have you met a lot of bad boys? How did that work out for you? I will always take time to answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below!

Sybersue xo ❤

Are You on the Same Intimate Page in Your Relationship?




In today's video I go on a bit of a rant today discussing the topic: Are you on the same Intimate page in your relationship?

Do you and your partner have the same libido and do you both put effort into maintaining the intimate side of your relationship? If you don't want to become another number in the divorce statistics, it's time to prioritize the love and romance with your significant other!

It's so important to keep the fires burning at home! Do not ignore this because you're too busy! Make time to always nurture the romance as a couple. Never forget the special intimacy you shared when you first met.

I Love to hear what you have to say & will always take time to answer you back. Please leave your comments below!

#advicecolumnist #marriageadvice #loveandromanceadvice

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Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Vancouver Singles Spring Event: Matching Guided by Science & Your Sense


What are the two most talked about things between men and women in Vancouver? 
  1. The weather!
  2. How bad it is to date here!
We need to change this thinking because that's not what people in this beautiful city want to talk about. There seems to be a block with human communication in Vancouver but that shouldn't be the case. Yes, we can't do too much about the rain and lack of sunshine but we can do something about how we interact with each other in Vancouver.

Men and women seem to get stuck in an anti-social scenario of the Vancouver dating scene! A good percentage of people are sending out negatively charged vibrations by avoiding eye contact, not smiling or communicating. This is especially true about Vancouver in the winter months.

The sunshine does tend to change that up though! Soon spring will be in the air and Vancouver will be buzzing again!

Despite the sunshine, we should always be thinking great thoughts and showing gratitude for what we do have in our lives to get a lot more of what we want to receive.  Doesn't it make sense to embrace having a positive attitude about love and life rather than focus on what isn't working for us?

Most of us believe in sexual chemistry and the concept that "scent" often known as pheromones play a role in human attraction, so this upcoming spring event (details listed below) may be just the ticket you've been waiting for! 

It is a unique dating format where you will be matched with people that are chemically compatible with you. The matches will be guided by scientific experiments and Vancouver relationship coaches. How cool is that! 

It sure beats going through endless profile photos online and where you will be actually meeting people "face to face" for a change!

I will (Dear Sybersue) be on hand at this event as one of the 3 co-hosts offering dating advice and to answer questions before the matchmaking begins. Check out the details below! 

I am very excited to be a part of this evening and I will look forward to seeing you there! ❤

MAR
21

Your Radar For Romance! Matching guided by science & your sense


 · Hosted by DNA_Romance  and 3 others


  • Thursday, March 21, 2019 at 6:30 PM – 8:30 PM



                                             Event Details

We are holding a singles event (ages 23-39) like no other,
our mission is to help you look at partner selection differently—from the perspective of all your senses, not just your eyes.

This event is hosted by DNA-Romance.com and Vancouver's top relationship coaches;


Susan McCord - Dear Sybersue
Nancy Deen - Hello Breakup
Mimi Lauzon - Mimi Lauzon


Your ticket includes a drink, appetizers, coaching, and matchmaking. Bring a friend; it’s always great to attend with a buddy, or feel free to come on your own! This event is for people who are between 23-39 years old.

* please bring a t-shirt worn without fragrance for 1-2 nights, this is required for our "chemistry" test

 While just a component of our event the sweaty T-shirt experiments are the basis for entire events like pheromone parties and even smell dating.

#speeddating #pheromoneparty #pheromone #matchmaking #dating #matchmaker #single

Schedule · Thursday, March 21, 2019

6:30 PM
Arrive and register your t-shirt, grab a light appetizer and mingle
6:45 PM
Room 1) Women work with The Date Cure: Room 2) Men work with Dear Sybersue
7:00 PM
Room 1) Women rate the scent of the men's t-shirts: Room 2) Men work with Mimi Lauzon
7:15 PM
Room 1) Women work with Mimi Lauzon: Room 2) Men rate the scent of the men's t-shirts
7:30 PM - 8:30 PM
You will be set up on speed-dates guided by our "Relationship Coaches" and the chemistry experiments.

So What is DNA Romance All About?

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Vancouver, BC -- Local dating app, DNA Romance (http://www.dnaromance.com), aired on the season premiere of Dragons’ Den on September 28th and has key new developments that the Dragons failed to predict since it recorded the episode on Sept 2017.

[DNA Romance has gained traction as a leader in online dating through DNA matchmaking by bringing forecasts of “chemical attraction” online. Its new developments include the addition of a personality-matching feature, improvements to the user interface and platform features, and most importantly, offering integration with seven more already-existing DNA tests like those from 23andMe and Ancestry DNA.

DNA Romance translates genomics information hidden in your DNA into actionable advice to help your personal dating life but, unfortunately, this advanced technology did not resonate with the Dragons. DNA Romance is still revolutionizing the science of matchmaking with an online dating app that uses genetic testing, personality type, and an advanced algorithm to predict chemical attraction and personality compatibility.

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Customers now have the ability to order a direct-to-consumer DNA test from “DNA Romance” and these can be paid for anonymously using crypto-currency including bitcoin. While the development of the web app has been ongoing, mobile apps are in development and will be coming to an App Store near you.

"Chemical attraction is the natural radar for dating compatibility, but online dating platforms fail to measure this major component in human attraction," says Dr. Timothy Sexton, a co-founder of DNA Romance.

Chemistry is a special, warm, fuzzy feeling that is the basis for sayings like “love is in the air,” and chemistry can only be felt “in person.”There’s been over two decades of research behind the scent of love - chemistry - proving it’s more complicated than pheromones and the coding for “chemical attraction” is in fact, written in your DNA.

Despite all of this, chemistry has been missing from online dating. One of the Dragons, Michelle Romano, questioned how DNA Romance could beat out its competitors which, up until now, have shut down operations.

DNA dating/DNA matchmaking has been tried before, but DNA Romance is the first to build a functional “secure” online DNA matchmaking platform; the so-called competition lacks credibility with no secure connection.

DNA Romance has subsequently bought the domain name a competitor Michelle Romano named specifically singldout.com for less than $200 USD.

Dr. Sexton and his co-founder and wife, Judith Bosire, have outlasted whatever competition there may have been and proven the Dragons’comment to be wrong by staying relevant and releasing their newest personality feature - below is how it works.
Dr. Sexton and his co-founder and wife Judith Bosire

Based on the furnished data, the app will decipher the crucial elements behind chemistry and compatibility for that particular person, and then present the report to other compatible members in their secure online account.

Essentially, DNA romance translates the understanding from this research into the prediction of chemistry with other singles who are using DNA Romance - and will spare you from endless awkward dates and bad relationships!



DNA Romance’s newest personality-matching feature now works the DNA data component in conjunction with their Myers-Briggs personality type to provide improved predictions of compatibility for a loving relationship.

This innovative approach brings a much-needed advancement to the world of online dating, elevating the search for love beyond personality and appearance to include the biological factors that play a major role in human attraction.

Although the Dragons couldn’t muster the courage to go on an “investment date” with DNA Romance, investors are certainly still on the prowl for a company like DNA Romance. Current Dragon veteran Arlene Dickinson said it best: “DNA Matching is the future.” That was eight months ago; the future is now.

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This video below will show you what to expect at the event!

  Chemisty of Attraction




For more information please contact DNA Romance

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show  



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Friday, November 30, 2018

Are you With Your Partner For the Right Reasons?



Today’s weekly discussion: Are you With Your Partner For the Right Reasons?
Are you sacrificing who you are to be in your relationship?


Is your partner calling all the shots and controlling what goes on between you as a couple? Are you afraid to say anything in case it leads to the end of your partnership?

Never shortchange yourself in life.

If you find that you are continually compromising yourself in any relationship, which includes family and friends, you need to have a long hard talk with yourself. You shouldn’t be OK taking a “back seat” to anything in your life.

You are just as important as any one of those people you have allowed into your world.

Life is a long learning curve and it can take time to build your confidence levels. The trick is to learn how to have self-worth as early as possible by not allowing destructive relationships to continue.

It is not easy to change who you are but with each step you take to better yourself, the easier it is to see and reach “the path to least resistance.” Why take the difficult route when there are so many tools available to help you live your best life?

Relationships are not always easy but they shouldn’t be continually taking a toll on your heart and self-esteem.

When someone you love doesn’t make you a priority it is a big red flag that shouldn’t be ignored. You may be invested in the relationship but if your partner isn’t equally invested, there will always be signs. Sweeping them under the rug hoping things will eventually improve is actually more damaging than if you confronted them with your feelings.

If they were to walk away from you it is only because you weren’t meant to be with them. No one wants to be rejected but by staying in this type of scenario you are already being rejected anyway. Do you get what I am talking about? They are only giving you a piece of themselves and are not fully committed to you.

Something brought you here to read this post so it might be time to ask yourself why you are in a one-sided relationship situation? Are you with them for the right reasons?

What’s in it for you and what are you really getting out of this relationship?

  1. Are you hoping they will come to their senses and eventually feel the same way as you do?
  2. Has this been a pattern in many of your relationships?
  3. Do you honestly feel respected by your partner?
  4. Have you had to defend yourself to your loved ones about how your partner is treating you?
  5. Do you feel sad a lot of the time because you don’t always feel loved by them?
  6. Are you constantly burying your feelings so your partner doesn’t feel challenged all the time?
  7. Are you reading a lot of articles on this subject and trying to convince yourself you are with the right person?
I cannot stress it enough how important it is to be in a reciprocated love relationship. It is never OK to be #2 due to someone else’s needs. Watch the video above to hear more about this subject and what you can do about it.

Please leave your comments below! I will always take time to answer you back. ❤

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