Thursday, September 19, 2019

Are Your Insecure Thoughts Ruining Your Relationships?

Are Your Insecure Thoughts Ruining Your Relationships? Do you have some inner demons that speak loudly to you with every relationship you venture in to?

Does self-doubt rule your thoughts on a daily basis and make you feel insecure within your partnerships? Is there something from your past that hasn't been dealt with and is causing you to feel insecure and unlovable?

It's time to take control of this issue and fix it! Trying to do this on your own isn't working so seeking professional advice is important now.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help, in fact, that shows a strength that you are ready to move on to your highest good. You are owning that something isn't working in your relationships and needs to be altered. That's a good thing!
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Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Ultimate Dating Advice After a Divorce

Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with but it doesn't mean your life is over or that you will never find love again.

Divorce can take a huge toll on your self-esteem and keep you guarded and angry for a long time. 
Do you really want your Ex to have that much control over you after your breakup? It's time to re-invent yourself! 
There is a reason things didn't work out in your relationship because there is a new and better path meant for you ahead. It's not going to be all rainbows and unicorns for the first 6 months, but things will improve when you make the effort to be positive when comprehending the reasons things dissolved in your partnership. It takes two people to make or break a relationship so try not to be jaded that it is all the fault of your Ex.

"I'm too scared to date! Who is going to want me?"

There is someone special out there, you just have to open your heart up again. (This is also single parent dating advice, love can happen again for you too! Date someone who also has children so they understand!) 

Don't be afraid to put yourself out there again, it's worth it to try! Do you really think that your Ex is the only person you can love in one lifetime? NOT! Let yourself be a little vulnerable by letting down your walls so you have the chance to end up in a healthier partnership that could be much better suited for you. 

Do not view divorce as a failure!

Sometimes relationships just run their course and a couple falls out of love or becomes bored or complacent and gives up trying to make it work anymore. Whatever the scenario was that ended your marriage, take some time to evaluate those learned lessons.

Get out of your routine and take some time to be around other people who are more compatible with whom you are today. It's not just your Ex that has changed, you are probably not the same person you were when you were first married years ago.

We as humans are all continually evolving, but we don't always grow in the same direction as our spouse. It is up to the couple to stay connected and communicative in their partnership.

Unfortunately, you can't make someone stay in love with you if their heart has moved on. It's tough to understand when it isn't a mutual decision but eventually, you will both be in a much happier place, than faking you're in a loving marriage that has obviously taken a new direction.

Dating has changed a lot in the last 10 years but ultimately we are all looking for someone to share our lives with. Yes, I know, there are people out there that are just in it for the sex, but they are pretty easy to pick out on the dating sites or even on a first date. They just can't help themselves in making sex a conversation priority! That is the first red flag!

If you are looking for a committed partnership do not sleep with someone right away! If they move on quickly then you have your answer as to what they are looking for! 

Get out with friends as often as possible, start a new hobby, take a course or join some meetup groups that offer mingling scenarios. The best thing you can do to get ready to date again after a divorce is to get back your self-esteem and rebuild your confidence! This can happen by diversifying your life on a regular basis.

The more you put yourself out there, the bigger the chance you will have of meeting some new friends and eventually be open to receiving a romantic partner into your life.  Love happens at every age and I know this to be true because I am one of those people who found love again after a long divorce. Always keep your heart open. <3 p="">

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Advice Show