Dating Advice: What is the best way to get noticed on an internet datin...

Two women want to know the best way to get noticed online. Do not BS in your Bio or Profile, be honest about everything if you are serious about meeting a potential partner.


While the preferred method of meeting a potential partner is at a function or event, many people today are looking for a date through online resources. This is mainly due to time, busy careers, age & even laziness. You don’t even have to dress or do your hair while talking with them online unless you are chatting through a web cam. It can be very exciting for some men & women who have had minimal dating experiences. All of a sudden they are connecting with new prospects on a daily basis!

Once you have decided to go online & choose your preferred dating site, your profile & photo are the most important tasks to pay specific attention to. Look around at other people’s profiles and make note of the ones that catch your eye. Review both men & women in your age category. When writing your Bio, try to keep it limited to 2-3 short paragraphs. Write out a rough draft of all your strong qualities, your preferences, boundaries (age, smoker, drinker, fitness level etc.) Ask a friend to describe you if you have trouble writing about yourself or have someone assist you that already have an online dating profile.

Photos should be attractive & classy. Showing too much cleavage, abdominals or biceps is making a sexual statement. (Of course if that is what you are looking for, then by all means post your best assets for all to see!) If you are serious about finding a life partner, then it is important to put “out” what you want to receive.

Be aware of your surroundings in the photo. If housekeeping is not your strong point, don’t take the photo next to a cluttered room. One of the biggest turn offs for others viewing your profile, is posting a picture of yourself with an old flame. It does not make you look important it makes you look vain and insecure. Air brushing your imperfections is not a good idea either because you will meet them one day. Remember that everyone has flaws no one is immune to that.

Humor is a wonderful quality and showing that in your written profile will give you a huge advantage when people read it. Being too serious or clinical is not attractive. By being specific with what you are looking for, you may have fewer suitors contacting you, but you will quickly weed out the ones that are not your type. Quality is what you are looking for in the long run. This way you will not waste time with the wrong ones and can concentrate on dating people you have lots in common with.

One thing to keep in mind, some people are content to just chat online without ever meeting anyone. They could just be fulfilling an ego need & that is all they want, or they may be married or in a relationship. This should be viewed as a red flag and seen early on. By deleting these types right away, you will spend less time waiting for them to make a date in person because you see them for what they are. You will become an expert over time & learn to spot these Internet dating leaches.

While venturing into this online journey it is important to have the same morals and values you have always had outside of Internet dating. Be careful not let too many things slide outside your boundaries or comfort zones, make excuses for the wrong ones or overlook things because you may be lonely. Be clear about what you want on your dating profile and in your life. When someone is right for you it does tend to happen naturally. It progresses without all the questions. “When will I see them again? “Are they going to call me again?” “Are they interested in me?” Think back to some of the tiresome relationships that were in your life, if it seems like too much work, it probably is. When a relationship is on the right track the feelings are reciprocated and if not, as Greg Behrendt would say, “Maybe they’re just not into you”.

10 DATING “PROFILE PRIORITIES” SUMMARY:

• Honesty – Only write the truth about who you are
• Make it short & to the point – If it is too lengthy, people with get bored & move on.
• Conservative photos – Save your “sexy qualities” until after they have earned your respect
• Only write about what you like, not what you don’t like.
• Disclose all children & pets living with you (Could you give Octomom a run for her money?)
• Your interests/activities should only include what you actually enjoy doing (if you have a fear of water do not say that white water rafting is your number one adventure sport)
• Be Specific as to what you are looking for – (no long distance, age restrictions, race)
• Do not ever put your phone number or email contact numbers on your profile


Susan McCord @ http://www.vancouverdatingrelationshipadvice.com
http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers

Dating Advice: My girlfriend Wants An Open Relationship With Another Woman

Dating Question From A Viewer:

Hi there. I am a male viewer & one of your biggest fans. I know you can help me with this as you are both honest & non judgmental with your advice. My girlfriend who I live with, wants to have an open relationship with another woman. She is also OK with me having another woman as well. Is this becoming the normal way for relationships?
Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Andrea Wesley

Dating Advice: My Boyfriend Might Be Addicted To Porn

A Viewer writes into the show about her boyfriend being addicted to pornography. She found out by snooping on his computer. Which is worse, him watching porn or her being invasive? Tune in with Susan McCord & Andrea Wesley "Two Women,Two Generations,Two Opinions -Real Advice!"

Susan McCord @Vancouverdatingrelationshipadvice.com
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Questions About Online Dating After 35

Are "The Rules" different for people over 35 when it comes to Internet Dating?
No I don’t think they are any different. I think we are less patient as we get older though. I don’t think many people would text each other 15 times before meeting in person like the younger group does. If they even know how to text LOL. It is all about respecting yourself first, at any age. That should be everyone's first rule.


What are the rules?

My rules were:

• “Don’t waste my time if you are not interested in meeting me”
• I’m not online to meet a buddy, I have enough male friends
• I wasn’t into chatting for a month before hooking up with them.
• If someone books a time to meet with you & cancels or stands you up, don’t contact them again. They are showing their true colors and not being respectful of your time. (Of course if they were in the hospital in a body cast that’s another story.)
• Be honest about your age & body type for both sexes. They are going to SEE you!
• Vices like smoking or alcoholism should not be hidden on your profile
• If you are not ready for a relationship STAY off the dating websites...see a counselor

What do you need to be aware of?

• Read between the lines or listen to what they say on the phone.
• If they say they don’t like kids & you are the Octomom, then find someone else.
• Look for signs that they may be in a relationship. Where are they calling you from? A closet or bathroom? Is it always somewhere outside their home? If you have had 5 dates already & have not seen their home, ask the question why?
• Watch how they treat others in your company. Are they rude, flirtatious, a show off, bossy?

How Do You Protect Yourself On An Internet Date & While Online?

• Have a friend close by for the first few dates
• Ask many questions about who they are online & in person
• Google them
• Let friends know where you will be meeting them & give them the phone number & email contact. Let your date know that some people know.
• Do not let them drive you anywhere until you know them better & always meet in a public place no matter how sincere they may sound in an email or phone call.
• Do not dress provocative , be selective in your dating attire. Dress your age too
• If they talk sex too early, stop it from continuing. Don’t lead them on before meeting them.

Is Internet Dating Safe?

Like many things today, safety has become compromised for many people in numerous situations. The key is to always be aware of your surroundings whether it is parking in an underground, putting your groceries in the car when late night shopping, or meeting a potential date.

Alcohol is the biggest problem for many women on a first date. They think it gives them liquid courage but truly it lets their intuitive guard down. This now makes her vulnerable to things she may have usually put a stop to. Her "spidey senses" are now muted & her safety is as well.

It is always best to meet during the day in a busy area for a coffee. You never want to be put in the position where you feel you owe them for something. Dinner & drinks can be a dangerous date!


What Are Your Reasons For Going Online & Does it Work For People Over 35?

I am a huge fan of online dating for the older crowd, especially in Vancouver. There are limited venues for 40 plus in this city, therefore less chance of meeting a potential partner. Single women who have very few friends to go out with, do not want to sit at a bar looking like a cougar or to appear desperate. It is very scary for many newly single women out of a divorce or long term partnership to get back out into the dating market as well.

The only big complaint that I have heard about online dating sites, is that the women say men in their 40’s or 50’s only want women 20 years younger. While that was true a few years ago, it now seems to be changing with the online dating crowd. There are so many more people to choose from than 10 years ago. People were more afraid of it & there were less dating sites to choose from. I love the fact that you can sit in your housecoat & flirt with guys!

The second complaint I hear is that many people say they are computer illiterate and wouldn’t know the first thing about how to set up a profile or how to use the website features. If I could teach a class on how to use a computer to change your life, I would teach it! Being left behind in the technology world will not improve your life with or without a partner. Why not learn everything you can & diversify your life? That’s what makes you attractive to a partner in the long run anyway. You may not need to resort to online dating as you will meet people along these new paths you take.
Susan McCord @ youtube/twobeavers